Whether you’re single, dating, or in a committed relationship, this score will help you understand your relationship dynamics better and how you connect with others.
1) I tend to remain pretty calm even under stress
2) No matter what happens in my life, I know that I’ll never lose my sense of who I am
3) I usually do not change my behaviour simply to please another person.
4) When I am having an argument with someone, I can separate my thoughts about the issue from my feelings about the person.
5) I’m concerned about losing my independence in intimate relationships.
6) I’m fairly self-accepting.
7) I am able to say no to others even when I feel pressured by them.
8) I’m less concerned that others approve of me than I am about doing what I think is right.
9) My self-esteem really depends on how others think of me.
10) My relationships suffer because my spouse or partner doesn't give me the space I need.
11) I feel things more intensely than others do.
12) I’m likely to smooth over or settle conflicts between two people whom I care about
13) It has been said (or could be said) of me that I am still very attached to my parent(s)
14) Whenever there is a problem in my relationship, I’m anxious to get it settled right away
15) I’m often uncomfortable when people get too emotionally close to me.
16) If my spouse or partner is away for too long, I feel like I am missing a part of me.
17) I try to live up to my parents' expectations.
18) Arguments with my parent(s) or sibling(s) can still make me feel awful.
19) I find myself thinking a lot about my relationship with my spouse or partner.
20) I worry about people close to me getting sick, hurt, or upset.
21) People have remarked that I’m overly emotional.
22) When someone close to me disappoints me, I withdraw from him or her.
23) I wish that I weren’t so emotional.
24) At times my feelings get the best of me and I have trouble thinking clearly.
25) There’s no point in getting upset about things I cannot change.
26) I’m overly sensitive to criticism.This question is required.
27) If I have had an argument with my spouse or partner, I tend to think about it all day.
28) If someone is upset with me, I can’t seem to let it go easily.
29) I’m very sensitive to being hurt by others.
30) I worry a lot about the kind of impression I create.
31) I usually do what I believe is right regardless of what others say.
32) I have difficulty expressing my feelings to people I care for.
33) I often feel inhibited around my family.
34) I tend to distance myself when people get too close to me.
35) I get concerned that my partner couldn't tolerate it if I were to express to them my true feelings about some things.
36) I’m often uncomfortable when people get too close to me.
37) I’m concerned about losing my independence in intimate relationships.
38) I often feel that my spouse or partner wants too much from me.
39) When one of my relationships becomes very intense, I feel the urge to run away from it.
40) I would never consider turning to any of my family members for emotional support.
41) When I’m with my spouse or partner, I often feel smothered.
42) When things go wrong, talking about them usually makes it worse.
43) My relationships suffer because my spouse or partner doesn't give me the space I need.
44) If I’m in conflict within friends or family, I will want to know who is on my side.
45) If I’m upset with a close friend or partner, I’ll usually talk about it with someone else.
46) I often get stuck in the middle between friends.
47) One of my parents often confides/confided in me about the other.
48) Sometimes I think I might gossip too much.
49) I find myself frequently mediating disputes between two other people.
50) When I'm upset with someone, I tend to seek advice from another person rather than addressing the issue directly.
51) In my family, it's common for one member to seek alliance with me against another family member.
52) I often feel caught between conflicting expectations from different people in my life.
53) I find myself aligning with one person against another to reduce tension in a group.
54) If I'm having issues with a friend or partner, I usually vent to a third person rather than discussing it directly with the person involved.
